Good morning…
I had heard the phrase before, but I chuckled when she said it in a casual conversation. “Don’t ‘should’ on yourself.”
I “should” do this. I “should” not do that. I “should” say this. I “should” not say that. I “should” think this. I “should’ not think that. We “should” on ourselves all the time. Other people also “should” on us regularly.
We draw imaginary lines all around our lives, boxing ourselves in, trying to keep dangers out. When we armor ourselves with the “shoulds” of their world, we hope to remain free from temptation, safe from painful judgement, and unconditionally loved by those we strive to impress. Yet there is a hidden problem packed in our suitcase of “shoulds.” Instead of helping, “shoulds” can handcuff, making us feel bound, insecure, and conditionally loved, as long as we stay within people’s parameters of “please, perfect, perform.”
We are hardwired before birth to be in conversation with our Creator. When we listen to the “shoulds” of the world above the reassuring voice of our living LORD, we contribute to our own slow death. Only the Spirit of God brings abundant life, along with freedom and safety and unconditional love.
Opening my Bible, I look for God’s commandment: “Don’t ‘should’ on yourself.” Romans 12:2 comes the closest. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
…Sue…
